I think America is. While perhaps an individual might feel their religion is being "spat upon" by the idea, that individual must remember their beliefs do not reflect every persons. What if someone's religion said that only gay people should be married while straight people must settle for civil unions? Society certainly would not allow that religion some/any sway with established law, but when gay marriage comes up Christianity seems to have this sway. While Christianity is a completely valid belief system which I respect immensely (and am often envious of due to the spiritual fulfillment practicing Christians seem to enjoy), the first amendment guarantees the right to freedom of religion and the establishment clause says the government can not make a law aiding the establishment (or the disestablishment) of any religion, which would include establishing a law against homosexuals. I understand the counterargument to this, "church's should not be forced to marry